There are some odd stories making the Internet rounds these days, especially regarding sex. Did you hear about the woman with the vibrating underwear malfunction that left her spontaneously orgasming in the chilled foods aisle at the supermarket? What about vibrators that burn your clit clean off? Then there are men and women who have become so addicted to their sex toys that they can’t climax in any other way, vaginas and penises be damned.
Whatever the stories, the reality is that increasing numbers of us are making use of gadgets built to give us mind-blowing body-shaking orgasms, and we’re keen to use them on our partners as well. Ann Summers collected a load of data of the UK’s attitude towards sex toys and found that a massive 4 out of 5 couples use sex toys together, not just occasionally, but at least once every 14 days. Similarly, 80% of individuals questioned by Ann Summers own and use a sex toy for solo pleasure.
We can imagine the majority of these people questioned are women. Not only is Ann Summers primarily aimed at the females, but also sex toys are very much associated with the ‘fairer sex’. However, it’s so important to include the chaps. The likes of Fleshlights and male vibrators have been growing in popularity with many videos and events going viral such as these men trying out sex toys for the first time and this very innocent Mum that found something interesting in her son’s bathroom.
So let’s take a look at the pros and cons of using sex toys.
The variety of sex toys out there is massive. 50 Shades might have thrust *ahem* them into the limelight, but the reality is we’ve had goody drawers for decades. The first dildo is dated back to the Palaeolithic era (that’s about 30,0000 years ago in simpler terms) and many were primarily made out of bone. That’s so easy to pun; we’ll feel cheap doing it…
The point is we’ve been thinking of unique ways to wank for a very long time; enough time to invent novel ways to do so.
The range of vibrators, dildos and flesh holes available – even filling a condom with water and sticking it in the freezer can create a freebie sex toy – means everyone regardless of budget, persuasion or gender can take masturbation and intercourse up a notch.
Sex toys are associated with solo play, with the Ann Summers survey suggesting this is how they’re used for the majority of the time, however a number of sex toys designed for couples are also now available to enjoy.
It’s no secret, or perhaps it is depending on how good an actress your partner could be, that many women struggle to climax through penetrative sex alone, needing plenty of foreplay and clitoral stimulation to take place first. It’s also no secret that you can have the best steamy session without involving penetration at all. Toys are the ideal way to explore your bodies. It’s the best feeling when you discover a new sexual avenue that has your bottom lip quivering. There are dildos and vibrators, yes, but there are also the likes of mechanical machines, electric devices, cock rings and even bondage too.
‘With great power comes great responsibility’ should definitely be a motto for those with an intense love for an amazing sex toy. The Magic Wand has been known to give women multiple orgasms whilst men who try Fleshlights and vibrators find themselves completely converted.
The only problem is some may find the ease of a sex toy, not to mention the guaranteed orgasm, is better than the emotional and physical attachment of a human being. That may come as no surprise, given how many people face one bad dating experience after another. Seeking a toy over a human has the benefits of no emotional baggage plus amazing climaxing, but this can also be a con. Before long, regardless of negative human traits, we may seek the warmth and affection of something you’d rather not charge before use. There is also the possibility of addiction, where you feel like you couldn’t give up your toy even if you tried.
Using a toy to intensify your experience with your partner can be daunting. Your partner may feel replaced, the noise could be distracting or it could make your personal experience with your toy less special now a third party is involved. Saying that, sex toys as part of a threesome or orgy can be particularly fun and offer some spontaneous results.
Keep It Clean
Emotional attachment, or detachment from your partner’s side, is a possibility however there are physical dangers as well. Cleaning your toy is extremely important, as bacteria can linger on any device. Sex toys can also carry sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Washing with lukewarm water is usually advised after every use, however it’s important to research your specific toy. For example, battery operated and electrical toys will need to be cleaned another way.
As well as STIs and bacteria, having a clear idea about what your toy is made from is key. Some plastics and rubbers may interfere with your body, for example if you have a latex allergy, although the vast majority will be made from materials that are 100% safe.
Lastly, a vigorous sex toy used for deep penetration, or that has a high vibration rate, can be damaging to the more sensitive parts of your anatomy, the clit for example. Starting small and working your way up is a decent plan when it comes to starting out in the sex toy game.
The voice of reason is often boring, especially when associated with sex, but knowing the ins and outs of your sex toy and how to properly care for it will give you plentiful orgasms in the future… and the opportunity to share this experience with your partner. Using sex toys together is a growing trend that is well and truly welcome. It allows us to be more open, so as to speak, not only about our sexual desires but emotionally as well.
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